Born To Die In Isolation

I didn’t know my family was abusive until I was well into my teens. When you don’t know something is abnormal, you can’t develop defenses against it. You just absorb it as the way things are. How relationships work and what family means. You build your whole understanding of human connection on a foundation of … Read more

The Day Dad Finally Died

The Hospital (Part 1) I was twelve when my father finally died, though “finally” might sound harsh to anyone who didn’t spend nearly a year watching someone deteriorate from the inside out. He’d been diagnosed with throat cancer about a year earlier, the crystal-clear result of smoking at least a pack of Kent brand cigarettes … Read more

The Car Crash for Christmas

Part 1 – The Uncle-In-Law’s Relative’s Place It didn’t happen exactly on Christmas, but it was definitely around the holidays on a Saturday night, and I was ten years old. I’d been dragged to some family’s home for a holiday dinner. They were friends or relatives of my uncle-in-law or something, one of those strange … Read more